The Silent Killer Narcissism!!!

Hello Happy People !!!

Welcome to the Brand New Episode, discussing a group of people that we come across in our daily lives. Victim or Culprit let's figure out in this episode...

                                    

So, Its been a very long time in the making of this episode, after the 10th and only drafts finally...here it goes by saying:

                            "Best after the Rest!!!"

So, What are we gonna explore:

• Who is a narcissist?
• What causes one to be a narcissist?
• Narcissist personality disorder(NPD)
• How to deal with narcissists suffering from NPD.

Well, we all share different experiences and stories in encountering a narcissist personality while some might not be even aware of this personality but that doesn't change the fact that narcissism is a behavior, not a trait or personality. This behavior is influenced by certain factors or an outcome of serious traumas and experiences in an individual's life that can't be kicked out easily from one's habit if the person gets used to it but that also indicates that it is not forever...

Quoting a great man that once said:

"How you can do something in months  

that you have practised not to do for years???"

Well, there might be the answer to that but for now, let's keep it as secret. Now you might be wondering who the f***k is a narcissist. So, Wasting no time further let's get started...

Who is a Narcissist?

From the above question, it appears a narcissist could be a person or a thing but let it be clear narcissist is not an object rather than a subject in psychology which describes 'me and only me ' behavior. A person with narcissist behavior dominates every conversation and makes it about themselves, a person who simply lacks empathy for others or a person with no f***k policy to other person feelings, the one who prioritizes their needs above anyone else's, he or she which expects a better treatment. But to make this episode more intresting and to explain the image of a narcissist in a better way we should know 'how ' rather than 'who' which lets to  classify two types of narcissist behavior or narcissism:

• Grandiose Narcissism
• Vulnerable Narcissism

• Grandiose Narcissism

The most famous kind of narcissism is characterized by extroversion, dominance, and attention-seeking. An example includes politicians, celebrities, and cultural leaders. Some might do it for power and attention while some do it for positive reasons like reaching full potential or helping make people lives better....like me JK😉

  

• Vulnerable Narcissism

This Category of narcissists is one who is quiet and reserved. They are not outwardly exhibiting traits of narcissism but inwardly they prioritize themselves before others. There is conflict in what is outwardly presented by them and what is inwardly experienced by a vulnerable narcissist. They act superior in a smug kind of way, engage in passive-aggressive behavior, and become emotionally distant. These are the ones who are the most affected victims of Narcissism. Another sign of a vulnerable narcissist is they are emotionally demanding always in need to adore them and never-ending attention-craving. They are so highly sensitive to criticism that you’ll find yourself terrified to say anything which could upset them to the point of having an emotional outburst. 

That's enough for the starters...Let's move on to the main course that brings us to the second question...

What Causes one to be Narcissist?

Some say that there has been no proof of why a person might behave a narcissist according to therapists that completely depends on the wiring of the brain while some argue that narcissism is a result of childhood experiences that leads to the child  having the wrong impression about themselves as well as the world and people around themselves. But it might not be the whole story.As said we may have a different experience in encountering a narcissist but we might not be aware of the 'why' they suffer from so let's discuss some of them as follows:

 

• Neglect

This might be neglecting the special needs of the child such as understanding, learning levels. At an adult level dodging this might be feelings that cause stress or pain at a times one can't fight them but atleast know them otherwise it may become a mess at later stages of life.  

• Insensitive Parenting

When parents ignore the fact that every child has special needs as well as different abilities. It might never happen that two children in the same house can react to the same value identically their response depends upon their level of understanding and hence special attention should be given when taking care as a parent neither harsh nor lenient. 

• Excessive Criticism

When Reality hits you hard at a time or moments in life when you are not prepared or ready to fight back it might results in oneself being over empathic which in turn sows the seeds of self-love which might grow up to obsession with oneself.

• Abuse/Traumas

Well, abuse can occur in many forms either physical or verbal or mental. And it remains as emotional distress for a long period of time in life which leaves a child or an adult in a disguise and leaving them vulnerable to be a narcissistic personality.  

• Extremely High Expectations

Setting Expectations in regards to personal as well as professional keeps a child or an adult consumed emotionally to the goal which might be draining an individual's ability to live in the moment and hence results in over ambitious traits.

• Genes

Genes play a vital role in humans life that's something that can completely define and transform one as a human . Here would like to Quote a great man that once said:" Bij se fasal usse aqal aur wesi hi nasal,Baki sab ch***pa hai,bik gayi hai duniya hawas ki aar mai,yahi hai satya aur satya hi hai dharam...so choose wisely". Well, abnormalities in genes can affect the connection between the brain and behavior that's how superheroes and supervillains are formed😉.

• Social Media

Well, This not a permanent cause but becoming one.No doubt with the extent of social media where branding and marketing come so handy people are getting obsessed with how they feel about themselves just because some bull shit losers like street dogs out there make them feel better or special they are forgetting their reality of who they really are and what they really want. Well, it might not affect now but it a definitely cry for a lifetime when you lose it once in for all and get carried far away from the world which could have been better than the one you already live in. (Moral of the story: Social Media is for Matured Ones not for children's so either be mature or don't use it at all.)

This all can be enough for knowing the cause but if you want to dive deeper the mighty google is yours...That takes us to the most crucial topic of this episode...

Narcissistic Personality Disorder...

Narcissistic Personality Disorder generally termed as NPD is best described as Paradox. People with NPD may act superior and confident but are often fragile and lack self-esteem.NPD causes great distress to both the person with the disorder and those around them. These are the humans who show the strongest symptoms of narcissism the most vulnerable culprit as well as victims of all.NPD is very much difficult to be diagnosed because it is found at a very later stage when the damages have already been done to the personality as well as mentality.NPD was discovered in the late 1980s and was first listed in the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual(DSM).NPD isn't common it rarely affects 0.5 or 1% of the general population one should not get confused between NPD and Narcissism a normal person can sometimes act narcissistic but doesn't have narcissism.

Some of the symptoms of a person suffering from NPD are as follows:

• People with NPD expect to get special treatment.
• They exaggerate their own smarts, success, power, and looks.
• The lack of empathy leads them to take advantage of people, with no regrets.
• Narcissists may be extremely jealous and ultra-sensitive.
• Because they tend to be very thin-skinned, they may angrily lash out at any criticism or push-back.
• Narcissists also may lash out when they feel like they’re not getting special treatment.
• Underneath all of these traits is a deep sense of insecurity.
• And — no big surprise, when you consider all these traits — narcissists may find it super-difficult to have healthy relationships, and have loads of trouble at work or school.

Well, hope you be better careful from next time...Now, let's move on to the last but not least one...

Dealing with Narcissists/Curing NPD

 

Knowing a friend who is a vulnerable Narcissist or might show symptoms of NPD is the first step in combatting Narcissism. A person suffering from NPD might live a normal life and hence fail to recognize that they have a mental illness or seek help. Well, it's also true with the extent of technology medicals come handy and you can get medical help on few clicks counseling an expert in these fields such as Psychology or Neuroscience is the best remedy to overcome these problems. With that said would like to list down some therapies that mental health professionals take you through: 

• Psychodynamic Therapy: used to explore and reduce pain from pasts events.
• Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: My favorite one. It's not compulsory you need to have NPD for that but there are many other benefits related to it like reprogramming your brain to adapt to certain behaviors. It is used to interrupt and change unhelpful patterns of thinking that cause difficulty.
• Relationship Theory: used to resolve conflicts in couples or families and improve communication and problem-solving.

Therapy of NPD is long term.No matter what success depends on the willingness of a person with NPD to acknowledge their disorder and commit to change.

People with NPD tend to be self-obsessed, believing others are the problem, so many see no reason to attend counseling. They can interpret encouragement to seek help as criticism and respond very defensively, deflecting fault onto others.

A useful technique to encourage therapy is to reflecting that they share a problem that can be cured over time. This is also known as Supportive Therapy.

Other Self-help strategies include:

• Spending time with people who often provide an honest reflection of who you really are.
• Participating in meaningful activities that make you feel good.
• Following through boundaries you set. Breaking them indicates you are not taking it seriously.
• Accepting that you cannot change your loved ones.
• Understanding their behavior is a reflection of their insecurities, not yours.

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So that's it Guys From My Side For today's episode, tune in for the next episode which is something going to be the best of all. Don't forget to comment down below...

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